Tip to parents and therapists dealing with a child / teen with eating disorder.

If you express fear and worry to her a lot it will be a burdon for her, she might feel guilty for "causing" you to feel this way, and feel she is a burdon to you. That is not good. Try to care about her behind the eating and food symptoms. Ask her with real interest what is bothering her, why she restrict, talk about acceptance of emotions, body, needs..., ask if she is missing something or someone, what her fears are, if she is angry at someone and so on. Perhaps she will start loving her self enough to eat if she experience others love her unconditionally. It is important to see the depth of her and her potential, not just that which is apparant and visible to the eye. She is young and have no idea what is hiding inside. This must come out for her to see by someones encouragement and from some activity. Don't give up. It is more hope for her to be well soon than for those who don't have parents that cares, and criticize instead.