The triggering things most people are able to say is the hardest parts of recovery, I think. I hope I will be able to be understanding without getting upset in the future. It should be possible because it is easy to understand the shallow self centered comments and harder for others to understand us deeply because they don't have the experience to do so and without us educating them first we have no reason to expect them to either. For the worst cases of shallow and self centered it can take time and repetition, but I trust that if people are educated well enough they will eventually understand. So many people are shallow, we have to avoid being close to them and find the few people we can feel comfortable around. I just started to eat more and I expect several people will think: She has gained weight, she doesn't look as good anymore etc, but soon they will be used to seeing me like that and not think about it anymore. I have taken pride in how i look so it will be humiliating, but if I look at it objectively it really doesn't matter what I weigh and how i look. I don't want to have pride, but self respect and one doesn't get self respect based on looks. One have to focus on inner qualities. And that is what we want, we don't want to be like those who utter superficial opinions. So let them focus on looks while we focus on what really matters.
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