To get well from anorexia I am certain we has to start follow realistic, not our supernatural, ideals and demands. We have to find the unrealistic ones and reduce them. One of my ideals is to serve others, work all the time, only thinking about others needs and not my own, and do that with no thought or need for food or sleep.
When I was little my dad thought I might be a genious, almost. Very intelligent. He asked the school if i could skip a grade or two when i was 5 because I could do the things my sister did at school better than her (she is 3,5 years older). The school said it was ok, but that it would not be the wisest thing to do because of social reasons. I am glad they followed that advice because I felt childish in comparison to the others in my class.
Point is: how my parents thought of me had much influence on my expectations to myself. I remember I got a panick attack when I was 12 because I found out i was not as well prepared to a test as i wanted to be (to do it perfectly). I remember I rushed home from my friends to read.They never asked how school was and expected I did the best and didn't need any help.
After I felt rejected first by my father, then my mother, then a boy i was interested in and finally a man who treated me badly, I started dieting, as I remembered my parents ideals for how a body should look like.
But how to let go of unrealistic demands to ourselves i don't know, but I think the first step is to find out where it comes from, and reject the demands because they are stupid.
When I was little my dad thought I might be a genious, almost. Very intelligent. He asked the school if i could skip a grade or two when i was 5 because I could do the things my sister did at school better than her (she is 3,5 years older). The school said it was ok, but that it would not be the wisest thing to do because of social reasons. I am glad they followed that advice because I felt childish in comparison to the others in my class.
Point is: how my parents thought of me had much influence on my expectations to myself. I remember I got a panick attack when I was 12 because I found out i was not as well prepared to a test as i wanted to be (to do it perfectly). I remember I rushed home from my friends to read.They never asked how school was and expected I did the best and didn't need any help.
After I felt rejected first by my father, then my mother, then a boy i was interested in and finally a man who treated me badly, I started dieting, as I remembered my parents ideals for how a body should look like.
But how to let go of unrealistic demands to ourselves i don't know, but I think the first step is to find out where it comes from, and reject the demands because they are stupid.
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